By akademiotoelektronik, 27/02/2023

But why do the heteros look at gay porn?

A man who defines himself in 5 heterosexual people with gay porn, according to an American investigation.But why ?

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"What excites me?It's a mystery.In the street, I am not attracted to men, I don't interest me, but sometimes I have periods where I just want to look at that.It's complicated to know why.Perhaps the forbidden ... "In reality, the question, David had never asked himself."Cook, hetero, married, two children", he occasionally likes to watch a good gay boulard, "once out of 10".He is not the only one.

It was in the Archives of Sexual Behaviour that the figure was released for the first time: 21% of the heteros looked at gay porn in the previous 6 months the survey.1 of 5.Not just gay porn (the vast majority also watched hetero films), but still.In this survey carried out with 821 men on their pornography consumption habits, other figures were able to surprise, as the fact that 55% of homos look at hetero porn, for example, but this one has raised some eyebrows.In another slightly less scientific but just as meaningful study, Youporn advances a figure of 24% of heteros who watch their gay videos.What will they get there?Decryption.

Because they are not straight

Dr Martin J.Downing, who led the study, himself asked the question.The one that 90% of the readers of this article are posing: "Would they not just be gay?"She is legitimate, simple, but also simplistic.According to the investigation (carried out anonymously), however, all these men who define themselves heterosexual and look at gay porn have not had any relation to another.It would therefore be necessary to deduce that 20% of the American population would simply be homosexual, a party not assuming it.And guess what?We have no idea of the proportion of homosexuals in the population.

According to a study carried out in 2006 (“Fraternal Birth Order and Ratio of Heterosexual/Homosexual Feelings in Women and Men», Journal of Homosexuality), 2 to 3% of respondents identified as homosexuals, but 20% recognized having already had “homosexual feelings »(just as much as those assuming to watch gay porn).In the 1950s, the studies of Professor Kinsey, to whom there is a kind of "scale of sexual orientation", spoke of 37% to be act.In France, an IFOP survey of 2011 cited 3% bisexuals and 3.6% homosexuals.4-5% is the frequently accepted value in the West.In his book Everybody Lies - Big Data, New Data, and What The Internet can Tell Us About Who We Really Are, Seth Stephens Davidowitz analyzed Google research in terms of porn.His assessment is the same: according to him, 4 to 5% of the American population would be gay.Far, therefore, 20% to let go of men with men.

Because heterosexuality does not exist

A little more complex, this theory is nonetheless simple to understand, since it continuity of the previous point: homosexuality, like heterosexuality, do not exist as such, in any case not inSummarizing them to two boxes.It would rather be, in sight, to imagine 7 billion and wheelbarrows.One for me, one for you, one for your father (but does not think about it), each with his landmarks, his anchors, but also his fluidity, his fantasies ...

This is what researchers from the Cornell University (USA) have been measured by showing men and women videos of people masturbating.In parallel, they observe the dilation of the pupil, a sign of the excitement "which does not lie".When the heteros look at a woman masturbating, they react "like heteros": it expands.And when they watch a man masturbate, they react like everyone else: it expands.Conclusion, 100% of those who define themselves as heterosexuals should already start by saying "mainly heterosexual"."We can now show physiologically that all men are neither gay, hetero, nor bis, conclude the authors of the study.You have to see male sexuality on a continuum, as we have always recognized for women [or rather, as we have always considered for women, imagining that a period of bisexuality was normal and common in women,But not in men, editor's note].»And on this continuum, the course can move at its will.

"I had trouble assuming, but you have to agree with yourself, recognizes Eric, 38 -year -old SNCF agent.If you are not going to see what's going on elsewhere, it is precisely that you are not completely comfortable with your sexuality."For him, porn is 80% gay."While my sex life is 98% hetero.»It started“ early enough, to the beginnings of Youporn.I looked at hetero porn, I liked to see the ejaculations.And I realized that we found more in gay porn."So, man, woman, whatever: he, what he wants to see is a beautiful ejac.The kind of actor is just a detail.

Because it is a normal fantasy in all heteros

Come on, we resume: the principle of masturbation is that it is fan-ta-soul.For false.Like when we were playing in the little little war, without having to shoot ourselves in the end.Just look at the top of the most watched tags on pornhub: the presence of “mother-in-law», “half-sister» and “mom» only confirm this idea.And if “hentai» and “gangbang» are at the top of the list, that does not mean that your neighbor sucks tentacles from 5 to 7.It means that we come to look for what we do not find precisely in real life (because we do not dare, because we do not have access to it, because it is illegal or "Immoral », or more generally because it is exciting as long as it happens in your head, not in your pants).

"Psychoanalysis says that homosexual fantasy is built in everyone in what Freud calls infantile sexuality", explains psychologist Eric Bidaud, author of psychoanalysis and pornography (2016, ed.Musardine)."There is always a notion of bisexuality with him, so homosexuality remains a fantasy in any ordinary hetero, although repressed most of the time.The existence of pornography makes it possible to let off steam all this today, and that's what is new, not the fantasy in itself ".

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Without forgetting that these fantasies necessarily evolve in connection with societal trends.The Fifty Shade phenomenon has placed the SM (soft) among the small kinky pleasures number 1 of the French as French women.The evolution of the gaze and practices (accompanied by an evolution of social laws and norms) on homosexuality has been able to help "popularize" these fantasies, or at least make them acceptable.

Because it's the same (phallocenté) but different

Although the vast majority intended for men, heterosexual porn is nonetheless treated to ziz on the Zizi (which, I remind you, should not interest the basic hetero, we have to believe forchandeliers)."Both are completely as exciting, recognizes David, our hetero cook.This is the mood of the moment that decides, or suggestions, going from one to the other.But in gay porn, I'm going to watch things a little more extreme.»

Because differences, there are. “Le porno gay est moins normé», assène Philippe, “hétéro très curieux»."There is something embarrassing in this heteronormativity, when there is a more free, more curious side in the gay environment. Le porno hétéro “normal», c’est toujours la même chose, et généralement l’image de la femme n’y est pas très belle.And me, it pisses me off to see girls being fucked by guys who strangle them at the same time.I feel like this is less the case in gay porn.»

Aussi, quitte à voir de la bite, il préfère “l’exaltation de la masculinité, de la virilité», qu’il trouve plus élégante dans le milieu gay."This thing of the Greek statues, I find it very beautiful, and it is more present in gay porn.It can be virile without being degrading for one of the partners.» En supprimant les femmes de l’image, le porno gay supprime de fait un rapport de domination entre hommes et femmes qui en dérange beaucoup sans pour autant enlever ce qui fait 70% du porno : un sexe dans un orifice.

La pornographie dite “hétérosexuelle» ne peut d’ailleurs elle-même pas être rangée aussi facilement dans une case, rappelle le sociologue du genre et de la sexualité Mathieu Trachman dans Libé : “En fait, c’est le partage entre hétérosexualité et homosexualité comme mode de catégorisation qui devait être remis en question.This does not make it possible to grasp homogeneous groups, in particular in the case of heterosexuality: how to consider that a category which brings together 95% of the population is relevant?Its main effect is to make believe that such a group exists, that it is the majority and normal.[…] If pornography is a privileged terrain to investigate heterosexuality, it is because it clearly explains the contradictions that this categorization produced.On the one hand, directors and producers strive to differentiate the sexual practices of the fantasies of spectators, to give the right of city to the most diverse desires, even those who are illegitimate as rape.On the other, the relationships between men are considered to be particular fantasies, outside their field of competence.»

Because we are curious and/or rebellious

"What changed compared to the 1950s and 60s is that sexuality has become a subject of society," recalls Eric Bidaud.Before, everyone managed with what they could.Now, to be a free individual, you have to be interested in their sexuality, including by being interested in its deviations.» Et le psy d’ajouter : “C’est une transgression générale, une sorte d’itinérance du porno.Among big amateurs, we always try at a time to go to the other side, even if we know that it is not for yourself.»

A necessary step, inherent, constituent of sexuality: to go see in your own margin which fantasy deserves to be drafted, while knowing that "porn in itself does not modify the sexuality that we have.But the prohibition is fundamental in the constitution of the desire of everyone to everyone.This is what creates a particular form of excitement.» Alors, homos, hétéro, écoutez Eric."We must say to the heteros" look elsewhere ".It is not degrading to see men kissing, it can be very sensual.It is not because we are 90% hetero that we should not think outside the box.I like to be curious about everything. Pourquoi pas sur la sexualité ?»